The month of September is the Ramadan month for the Muslim culture. According to my wifey, this is the most important event for the year before their Hari Raya Puasa. Ramadan is the monthe when muslim fast from morning till night. This fasting is to help them cleanse their sins so that they can go to the better place after life. This fasting will start exactly one month before their Hari Raya Puasa.
I asked a few malay friends of mine if during this Ramadan period they are allowed to make-love. All of them told me they are not allow during fasting but after break-fast at night there are allowed. Even though they are allowed, they have to clean up thoroughly after that in some ritual way as a form of cleansing.
However, wifey told me that whatever they said are limited to legally-married couples only and since wifey only signed the marriage certificate I designed without any legal authorization, we do not fall under the “able to make-love” category. Also, kissing and hugging or any form of body contact and intimacy are also not advisable during fasting hours.
Well… basically, our love actions for this month has been reduced to a minimum. Our intimacy also greatly cut-down. Our love grows stronger and deeper though when we go through this endurance period. We understand how much we felt for each other, the love, the respect, and the needs.
The major thing that really happen during this month is the painting of wifey’s house. MIL had suggested wifey to paint the house(living room) and after discussion, wifey chose two shades of brown for the house. The process is tiring as we had to rush it through during the weekend. There has to be two coatings so that the previous colour can be uniformly covered. This is also the only time I spent together with wifey and MIL under the same roof for more than 12 hours a day for 2 days.
The first day was rather okay till the evening when MIL went over to wifey’s aunty house for dinner. Wifey invited Sri over and I had no idea at all. Was just hoping to have private times with him since I did not really get a lot of time to be alone with him for this month. Somehow, Sri’s appearance made me moody. Not that I am unfriendly but felt that Wifey could have discussed with me instead of just arranging it the last minute and then just inform me of his actions.
After the house is done, I also arranged wifey and his cousin Jim to pick up a set of donated sofa. The colouor of the sofa is brown which matches the colour of the newly painted living room. Further more, the sofa set is very new and thus it helps MIL to save some spending on new furniture. Overall, wifey is pleased with the house and the new furniture. I am also pleased as I am of use to my wifey and able to let him live slightly more comfortably in his house.
"Wifey Shaari, My Love for You stays Strong and True."
"I hope that Your Love for Me will Be Strong and True too."
Hubby Roger
